Mom, how are babies made?
Looking back, I think I really started preparing for my daughter to ask me that question when she was itty bitty.
When she was in kindergarten another mom and I were talking about this dreaded conversation and she suggested I read Barrett Johnson’s book, “The Talks.” Of course, the book was in my Amazon cart instantly and thus began my research on this topic.
I recently had the opportunity to meet Barrett when he presented at my daughter’s school and I shared with him an exchange I had with Emerson (then age 5) just days after I finished his book. It went like this (names have been omitted to protect the innocent):
Me (noticing Em stare off into space at a stoplight): Em, what are you thinking about?
Me: What about BOY?
Em: How I’m going to marry him!
Me (following Barrett’s advice not to shut that kind of conversation down): What about BOY makes you think you should marry him?
Em: He’s kind to everyone. He’s funny and he loves God and Jesus as much as I do.
Me: Wow. Those sound like great qualities in a husband!
Fast forward to the week before her 10th birthday, driving home from a softball game, and that is when I got THE question. “Mom, can you just tell me how babies are made?” I am quite certain I didn't answer with 100% perfection but I was prepared and willing to engage in this parenting right of passage and for that, I am so grateful.
So much so, that I want all parents to feel empowered to do the same (or better)! Why? Because after our first installment of "the talk" my girl prayed this prayer: "Dear God, thank you for the bond that my mom and I have, that we trust each other to have conversations like this. Amen.”
Friends, there are no better words to hear from your child than bond, trust, and conversation!
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Collins Foster, LMSW